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What is the true meaning of self-love, and how to do it?

Loving and accepting yourself just as you are, unapologetically, with all the good and bad, is a sign of true self-love.

Knowing your value, respecting yourself, being kind and compassionate to yourself sets you on a great journey of self-love.

Loving yourself means putting your emotional and mental wellbeing first and not settling for less than you deserve.

Now I would like you to think about things that you are waiting to hear from a parent, significant other or anyone else and I want you to say those things to yourself.

You can say things like “I am lovable”. “I am enough”, “I am smart”,

“I love you” …

Keep saying these positive nurturing statements to yourself, and soon you will feel that the love for yourself is growing with each day. Saying these words to yourself is more powerful than hearing it from someone else.

Deborah Khoshaba in Psychology today says that “self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth.”

She mentions steps to increase self- love.

  1. Become mindful.
    People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them.
  2. Act on what you need rather than what you want.
    You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
  3. “Practice good self-care.
    You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy, and healthy social interactions.
  4. “Set boundaries.
    You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work,   love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally, and spiritually, or express poorly who you are.
  5. “Protect yourself.
    Bring the right people into your life. I love the term frenemies that I learned from my younger clients. It describes so well the type of “friends” who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success. My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them! There isn’t enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, “I genuinely love myself and life.” You will love and respect yourself more.
  6. “Forgive yourself.
    We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect) before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.
  7. “Live intentionally.
    You will accept and love yourself more, no matter what is happening in your life, when you live with purpose and design. Your purpose doesn’t have to be crystal clear to you. If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose. You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do. You need to establish your living intentions, to do this.”

 

Here at the Mental Wellbeing Therapy we uncover the root cause and rewire your mind with new, supportive beliefs to help you move forward in a positive, empowering way.

With our Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) approach, we succeed where other therapists don’t.

 

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